Do you say yes when you mean no?
Do you say it's ok, when it's not ok?
Do you say, whatever, when you have a strong opinion?
I had to deal with the shocking truth when a friend said, people pleasers are liars.
I began my journey of recovering from people pleasing because I wanted to tell the truth, my truth. The truth of what I feel, think and want. I knew I had to stop prioritizing other people's approval more than how I felt.
Starting the journey of recovering from pleasing people is like learning a new dance. It's awkward, clumsy and you may step on other people's toes but it's worth the effort in order to have deeper, more intimate relationships, less resentment and exhaustion.
Recently, I had the opportunity to talk on Dr. Zoe Shaw's podcast, Stronger in Difficult Places about my new book called 12 Steps to Overcome People Pleasing. You can listen to the podcast here.